| Diane
spent a third of each month with migraines for which nobody in the medical
world advised her to consult therapy for. Synchronicity had it such that
we met at a three-day workshop on art therapy.
A very nice woman
indeed. We had our meals together and learned about each other’s life and
career. On the last day of our workshop, she claims she will probably have
to cut it short for her monthly ordeal of migraines is showing its nose.
A light throbbing
has worked its way up her neck and this is how it normally starts. I can
see pain in her eyes and face; I can imagine what an ordeal it must be
to have that ghost show up every month. She literally becomes paralysed
for days and all her life is put on a stand still.
She is 38 years
young. She has 2 young children and a comprehensive husband who helps her
as much as he can during those moments. On the other side of the coin,
these migraines have literally stopped her advancement on the work force;
everybody knows about her absence from work and compensates for her.
Pills help her
a bit but they never lead her back to a normal life. The rest of the time
she is fine and catches up with her routine.
Who would want
that life? Nor you or me! Not Diane either.
For the last ten
years, I have researched PMS and its links to our subconscious. You read
well. We all have unknown and unconscious situations that we have far too
long left aside, unattended, unlooked and misunderstood. We also have a
myriad of limiting beliefs about anything and everything. So it is about
your many physical and emotional symptoms whether medicine calls it PMS
or cancer.
Did you know that
39% of the women I surveyed have similar symptoms if not every month, more
often than they should?
Ten years ago
when I discovered my first link between PMS and the subconscious, I was
totally flabbergasted about my own discovery and results. I kept researching
PMS and its links to our subconscious, and migraines came up too often.
I offered Diane
to look at the possible links and the reasons why her body was reacting
as such in her life. She happily consented. After an hour together, she
realized how much she had just adopted a pattern that came from her own
mother. As we were doing this introspection, she was amazed her pain had
not become worse as it would have done in the past.
“My mother used
to have that same symptom month after month after month all her life. I
can see how Mom also had developed a pattern of her own.”
I offered to Diane
that we keep in touch and that I help her during the following months.
Along the way in our conversation, she also discovered she was a saviour
with everybody around her. I told her that Mother Teresa had a perfect
role cut out for her and she never burned out while alive. Diane, I discovered,
has concerns and issues she allowed the world to put in front of her.
Like so many women, she has been educated to care and had not granted herself
the permission to set healthy limits. Most of us have to learn to say “NO!”
at times.
She reflected
long and hard to realize she did not have to be SO GOOD! Because the one
who ends up paying after all, IS HER. And at what price?
Every symptom
has its own limiting belief. What is yours? Where does it come from? From
whom have you copied it or believed you had no choice but go along with
it?
All these simple yet
profound questions will help you finally connect to your own true self.
You may find in the process that it becomes important you take some parts
of your life in your own hands.
I wish you great
success and please let me know how you are doing.
Pauline Houle |
Pauline Houle is Therapist
with 20 years experience znd authir of "My Beauty & My Beast - Mind,
Body and PMS". She has a background in Social Work and Psychodynamic trainings
that really make a difference in people's lives. She has a Masters Degree
in Transpersonal Studies, which has been a great help in keeping her focused
on the big picture of PMS and what women need to know in order to cure
it. www.paulinehoule.com |
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